How to Start Dating Again

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By an eHow Contributing Writer 

One of the hardest things to deal with after a break-up is figuring out how to start over. Trying to determine how long to wait and how to re-enter the dating world can be difficult. It is important to give oneself enough time to heal but also to try new relationships. Here are some suggestions for starting to date again.

Instructions

Take it slow. Even if you are the one who initiated the recent break-up and feel that it was the right thing to do, your emotions may be sensitive and trusting or opening up to new people could be difficult. Give yourself a little time after the break-up to collect yourself and be okay with being single again.

Leave the past where it is. It is unfair to you and to anyone you choose to start dating to let your past relationships affect your current one. Understand that you cannot change what has happened and hanging on to negative memories of the past is not healthy. In order to successfully start dating again, you must be willing to let go of any anger or guilt about past relationships and look towards the future.

Try something new. If you have a habit of dating people who look similar or treat you a certain way, reintroducing yourself to the dating world can be a great opportunity to try dating someone different. Be open to dating someone who isn't necessarily your usual "type." It is a great way to meet people and discover new traits in your own personality.

Go public. A great way to start meeting new people again without putting a lot of pressure on yourself is to simply get out into the public and mingle with other single people. Visit your favorite bar or club for a drink or to hear a band or consider going to a "singles" event that introduces you to other single people without forcing you to engage in a one-on-one date.

Know what you want. If you feel that you are ready to start dating again, consider what qualities and priorities you are looking for in another person. You owe it to yourself to know what you want and require in a relationship, and being aware of these needs will make your dating decisions more informed.

Be yourself. Take stock of all your positive attributes and be proud of all the good things you have to offer another person, but don't be someone you're not. Be honest about who you are and what you want out of a relationship. If you were hurt in a past relationship be straightforward about it, but don't dwell on it. Being honest and upfront about yourself will make the dating process more relaxed for everyone.

Dinner At 8 is the Tampa Bay area's “Premier” Matchmaking Service for singles of all ages living on the Gulf Coast.  NO, IT'S NOTHING LIKE ON LINE DATING OR ANY OTHER DATING SERVICE YOU MAY HAVE HEARD ABOUT.

Our "Matchmaking Services" are designed to represent singles of ALL AGES to introduce you to that special person you've been seeking to share your life, love and make memories.  Our success is incomparable and we strive to give each and every client that personal attention that they won't find in on-line dating and other dating services.

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 We live in the wonderful State of Florida. There is so much to do here and we need to take advantage of it.  We live where other people vacation.  We have the unique advantage of being able to enjoy all that Florida has to offer on a daily basis.  We all want a future full of fun and promise. We want a life full of activities, good friends and good times. We strive to provide an active, fun and varied social life. As Matchmakers at Dinner At 8 we know you want someone to share those experiences.  Our goal is to find you that person.  We are serious about our profession and work very hard to give back to the community.  We participate in community activities working well with other businesses and are members of the Greater Seminole, Largo and Clearwater Chambers of Commerce.

HOW OUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE WORKS - We work with singles of all ages.  Some of our clients have tried match.com, e-harmony and other social dating sights and services and it hasn't worked.  Whatever their past experience has been, our clients are looking for that "special someone" to share their life. All of our clients are looking for a committed, monogamous relationship and in many cases, marriage. People change, things change, relationships change.  Whatever your past relationships we firmly believe that there is more than one person for everyone.  Our task is to find that special person for you that will be your partner in life and love.

To do this we have to get to know you so we schedule a private meeting, in a social setting.  This meeting is so that you may get to know us and feel confident in our abilities.  It is also important for us to talk to you and decide if we honestly feel we will be successful in your behalf.  If we decide to work together it is a joint decision that must be comfortable for all of us.   If we do not feel we will be 100% successful we will let you know immediately.  Believe us, that initial meeting is very important to us.  We're dedicated, loyal and very good at what we do.  We're serious about the business of matchmaking.  

Our services are unique and very personal.  You will not find out clients on-line or in local single spots.  

They are much more private and in most cases, don't want anyone to know they have hired a personal matchmaker.  In most cases, they are too busy and involved in other things to spend time looking for their true partner and leave it up to us, professional Matchmakers at Dinner At 8.   

   If you have not thought of using a personal matchmaker, or perhaps never even heard of it, you must give us a call.  Our services are surprisingly inexpensive and are designed to help you realize the happiness of sharing your life with someone who shares your interests, goals, style and loves you for who you are.  We want to introduce you to that person who will compliment you as you compliment them.    Our clients are very satisfied and feel safe because we use a service to perform a criminal background check on all clients and matches. 

 

We work hard to help our clients determine what they are looking for in a mate. We assist them in discovering why they may have not had success in meeting someone in the past.  We then set about to find a partner with the attributes, interests and lifestyle that our client is searching for. Your past doesn't matter.  What matters is the present and no matter what your relationship triumphs or failures have been, we hold your hand throughout the process in finding that person to share your life.

Beth and Marc Nielsen and their staff of Matchmakers at Dinner At 8 have never met a stranger and can be seen everywhere approaching people who they think may be a match for a client. Extensive interviews and criminal background checks are done on everyone for their own protection. Once this is done we set up a date to see if the chemistry is there.

Matchmaking has been practiced all over the world for decades with much success.  If you are seriously looking for your own "special someone" give us a call at (727) 320-6911 to set up a confidential meeting at your convenience.

 

 

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Matchmaking isn't what you think.  We know those who have tried on-line dating including such well known venues as "Match.Com" and "E-Harmony".  The odds of meeting many people using those services is good.  In fact, it's great.  The only thing is . .  . it's a toss of the dice as far as the type of person you will meet.  I spoke with someone just last week who had tried them all.  She was on Match.Com for over a year and had many dates.  She met a lot of men and went out to a lot of dinners.  The only thing that happened was that she gained 12 lbs and left with nothing.  The men she met were habitual daters who came with a lot of baggage in many cases.  She was really looking for a life partner and none of them men she met were interested in that.  A couple of them had criminal backgrounds and several were dating many women at the same time.

Another client of ours had been on E-Harmony.   He met a few women through that service but very few of them were from this area.  They were from other parts of the country in some cases and the one he really liked would not move to Florida and wanted to stay in the Northeast.  He owns his own company here and cannot relocate.  It was then that he turned to "matchmaking" to fulfill his dream.

There are about 700 Professional Matchmakers all over the world.  It's a profession and one that has withstood the test of time.  As Professional Matchmakers we are very selective on who we work with.  We have a one on one meeting and spend a lot of time talking to you about your interests, your life and what you want to achieve.  In many cases and after much discussion we will also be able to tell you why you may have not had success in meeting your special someone.  Sometimes it calls for a change, be it big or small.  The important thing is that we need to give you an honest evaluation of what we see and hear from you with realistic goals for you.

We then go out and find you that special person who matches everything you want.  We do an extensive interview on anyone we meet on your behalf BEFORE we make an introduction.  We do a background check on those individuals and you will know just what you are getting when we introduce you to someone.  It's a win-win situation for both of you.  All you have to do once we make introductions and arrange that first "date" is see if the chemistry is there.  What could be more simple?

This is  a very safe and inexpensive way of meeting someone to share your life and your dreams.  Everything we do as Professional Matchmakers is confidential.  Nobody knows you are using a Matchmaker unless you tell them.  The nice thing about this service is that you are not out there on the Internet for everyone to see.  Nobody knows about you unless we decide to share information with them.  That is only done when we determine that they are a good "match" for you.

If you're serious about finding someone to shar your life give us a call.  We'd love to sit down in person and chat with you about your dreams for the future.  It's a a big world out there and we'd like to help you make it a little smaller.  Live!  Love!  Laugh!   Make your dreams come true.

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Friends Are More Important Than Family for Longevity

From Sharon O'Brien,

People with Many Friends Outlive Those with Few Friends

Most of us know from experience that having good friends can make our lives richer, but research now shows that our friends may also increase our longevity. The same isn't true for our relatives. In a 10-year longevity study of people aged 70 and older, researchers at the Centre for Ageing Studies at Flinders University in Adelaide, Australia concluded that a network of good friends is more likely than close family relationships to increase longevity in older people. The research report, based on the Australian Longitudinal Study of Ageing (ALSA), was published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health. How Was the Longevity Study Conducted?
ALSA, which began in Adelaide in 1992, used a series of interviews with nearly 1,500 older people to assess how much contact they had with their different social networks, including children, relatives, friends, and other confidantes. The group was monitored annually for four years and then less often for a decade. The researchers also considered how economic, social, environmental and lifestyle factors affected the health and well-being of the seniors in the study. After controlling for those variables, the researchers were able to see the positive effect friendships have on longevity. What Makes the Longevity Study Significant?
According to Lynn Giles, one of the four researchers who published the report, there is nothing new about evidence showing that social networks increase longevity, but ALSA went a few steps farther. "What hasn't been done before is to break down which social networks might be most beneficial," Giles said in a statement published on the Flinders University web site. "It looks as if friends are the most important in terms of survival." What the Longevity Study Found
Based on results from the study, researchers learned:·                                 Close relationships with children and relatives had little effect on longevity rates for older people during the 10-year study. ·                                 People with extensive networks of good friends and confidantes outlived those with the fewest friends by 22 percent. ·                                 The positive effects of friendships on longevity continued throughout the decade, regardless of other profound life changes such as the death of a spouse or other close family members.Giles said that neither the study nor the report suggests that family ties are unimportant to older people, only that they seem to have little effect on survival and longevity. For example, she pointed out that another study showed that close relationships and frequent contact with family members were the most important factors in helping older seniors avoid disabilities and increase longevity. Why Are Friendships So Powerful for Longevity?
While the study couldn’t say for certain why close friendships have such a dramatic effect on longevity, the authors of the report speculated that friends may encourage older people to take better care of themselves—by cutting down on smoking and drinking, for example, or seeking medical treatment earlier for symptoms that may indicate serious problems. Friends may also help seniors get through difficult times in their lives, by offering coping mechanisms and having a positive effect on mood and self-esteem. Giles said the research didn’t distinguish between the effects of new and long-term friendships on longevity. "The central message is that maintaining a sense of social embeddedness through friends and family appears pretty important for survival,” Giles said, “and it seems that non-kin relationships are particularly important."Meeting New People, Making New Friends